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National Crisis: Black boys failing

#0, by matrixone05, 16 November 2010 01:31 PM

"Black males continue to perform lower than their peers throughout the country on almost every indicator," concludes a new report released by the Council of the Great City Schools titled, "A Call for Change: The Social and Educational Factors Contributing to the Outcomes of Black Males in Urban Schools."

The Council declares the report's revelations a "national catastrophe" and calls for coordinated national attention.

"The issues that emerge from the data are both moral and economic, calling into question the nation's ability to harness all of its talent to maintain a leadership footing in the world," Council Executive Director Michael Casserly said. "How can you narrow or close the country's black-white achievement gap when African American males are not getting the attention and support they need to succeed?"

Egregious Findings

The study found:

In readiness to learn, black children were twice as likely to live in a household where no parent had fulltime or year-round employment in 2008. And in 2007, one out of every three black children lived in poverty compared with one out of every 10 white children.


In black male achievement at the national level, first-time analysis of the National Assessment for Educational Progress (NAEP) reveals that on the 2009 fourth grade reading assessment only 12 percent of black male students nationally and 11 percent of those living in large central cities performed at or above proficient levels, compared with 38 percent of white males nationwide. In eighth grade, only 9 percent of black males across the country and 8 percent living in large cities performed at or above the proficient level in reading, compared with 33 percent of white males nationwide. Math results were similar in both grades.

In black male achievement in selected big city school districts, 50 percent of fourth and eighth grade black males in most urban districts and nationwide scored below basic levels.

In college and career preparedness, black males were nearly twice as likely to drop out of high school as white males. In 2008, 9 percent of black males dropped out of high school compared with 5 percent of white males.

In addition, black male students nationally scored an average 104 points lower than white males on the SAT college entrance examination in reading. And black students generally were about one-third as likely to meet ACT college readiness benchmarks as white students.


New York Times

The New York Times weighed in on the issue in a Nov. 9 article by Trip Gabriel titled, "Proficiency of Black Students is Found to be Far Lower than Expected." According to the article:

"There's accumulating evidence that there are racial differences in what kids experience before the first day of kindergarten," said Ronald Ferguson, director of the Achievement Gap Initiative at Harvard. "They have to do with a lot of sociological and historical forces. In order to address those, we have to be able to have conversations that people are unwilling to have."


Those include "conversations about early childhood parenting practices," Dr. Ferguson said. "The activities that parents conduct with their 2-, 3- and 4-year-olds. How much we talk to them, the ways we talk to them, the ways we enforce discipline, the ways we encourage them to think and develop a sense of autonomy."


Generations of Failure

Dr. Ferguson hit the nail on the head.

The Council of the Great City Schools report is raising an age-old issue that, as it proclaims, should be considered a national crisis deserving of a coordinated national effort. But while the Council calls for the White House to take the lead on this issue, Dr. Ferguson indirectly raises a point that resonates with me: Why does the White House need to take the lead?

This issue isn't new. Black boys failing academically didn't just recently become a crisis.

We adults have failed our Black youth primarily because we refuse to come together as Black leaders (fathers and mothers) to establish our own plan of action. We have failed to create collaborations on a national scale to effectively overcome the challenges necessary to resolve this problem of widespread academic failure.

Facebook to the Rescue

Recently, Facebook CEO Mark Zuckerberg donated $100 million to help the failing schools of Newark, New Jersey. I don't know of any consortium of wealthy Black folk adding to that number. That surprises me.

Can we call a meeting? Can we get a few hundred wealthy Black folk together without putting together an awards show or inaugurating a Black president?

Maybe we need to start small. Can I get a few dozen concerned Black people to volunteer? How about a handful? Just send me an email.

Black Boys Failing Is Symptomatic

Despite the tragic circumstances that cripple so many of our potentially productive youth, the academic failures of millions of our Black boys isn't the core problem. The core problem is the failure of the adult Black population to effectively address underlying issues that have led to an overwhelming crisis situation. Dr. Ferguson alludes to it when he says we need to have conversations we don't want to have. And without actively engaging in those conversations, we watch millions of Black children arrive on their first day at the gates of public schools ill-prepared for a system of education, which they experience as foreign to the environment in which they are raised.

Were it not for the insightful wisdom of my mother, I, too, would've been added to the statistical data that have continued to tell the story of a national tragedy long ignored.

Language Barrier: Overcoming Incredible Odds

I was raised by a divorced mother, along with my four siblings, in the south during the 60s and 70s. When my father left to chase his personal lusts, my mother eked out a living for her five kids. We lived in Houston, Texas, and I attended a high school that hasn't changed much since I graduated in 1980.

My mother enforced reading, writing, grammar and proper oratory skills in her home. And thus, I learned two "languages:" English and street lingo.

I was ridiculed for the manner in which I spoke, so I had to adjust. The taunts of, "You talk like a White boy," at times resulted in physical battles.

When I enrolled at the University of Houston, it was my English and math skills that helped me achieve the required SAT score to be accepted. But much of what I learned in high school was acquired during two summer-long sessions at a tuition-based White school on the opposite side of town. I qualified for free summer sessions at the school's math and science institute program after passing a test given to disadvantaged youth. In the time it took to ride the tiny yellow bus across town, my world changed from a comfortable old environment where I was considered a bright student, to a strange beautifully manicured land where I was a dim bulb.

Recruiting Knowledge

When I joined the Navy, it was my English and math skills on the ASVAB (Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery) that opened the door for specific high-level engineering schools that would lead to a $20K bonus for re-enlisting after serving half of my 12 years in the military.

As a Navy recruiter during the Gulf War, I served in east rural Texas where no Black recruiter had ever served before. It was my ability to speak the language well that eventually opened closed doors, which led into the homes of White families where I spent countless hours discussing military options with skeptical parents. I received virtually every award the Navy offered in recruiting, including meritorious advancement in rank.

When I started my media career after the military, it was in talk radio prior to moving to print. Obviously, both require substantial time reading and analyzing of issues, as well as conducting research and publicly expressing informed opinions on topics.

Foundational Challenges

The report issued by the Council of Great City Schools calls for a government solution. Meanwhile, the problem of education failure is identified as early as the entry level into public schools. The Council is correct in requesting the government to invest in a solution. But how can the government address the lack of education (English and Math skills) with which children first enter into the school system?

Obviously, there is a need for a major discussion in Black America to take place and for "us" to take the lead on this issue. After all, these are "our" children.

In our communities, millions of Black boys do not seek to master the English language. Math is anathema. They do not hear grammatically correct English spoken routinely. Few Black boys read books well or often. Millions of Black children do not witness daily reading, do not engage in daily exercises that improve their mental capacity, and all too often are enrolled in the public school system merely as a compliance with law. For some Black parents, the public schools serve as a relatively safe "baby sitter."

These revelations will undoubtedly draw harsh criticisms. Still, they are undoubtedly true.

Ignoring the Problem

Most Black parents are already aware of how deplorable many of the public schools serving low income communities are. Educators and administrators know it too. Politicians are just as informed. Yet, the failure of the schools has continued over decades. And the extraordinarily high numbers of ill-prepared incoming children continues to remain an open secret.

MY Mother Knew Best

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Green kids: Mike Green (standing right) with two brothers and two sisters. (I believe the year was 1968).

My mother did not rely upon the schools to ensure we received a good education. She was well aware the schools we attended were academically sub-par. She ensured her children were well ahead of most of our peers.

Sometimes we were latch-key kids. All the time we were poor. We had just one parent. But somehow my mother ensured we didn't want for much. We got into trouble at times. We lived in communities with gang violence and drugs. And we encountered some of what goes with that in our lives too.

But we had hedges built around us that offered protection to some degree. Those hedges came in the form of our own internal perspectives of the silliness we witnessed, coupled with our religious upbringing and the array of female adults (mom, grandmother, aunts, parental friends, etc) who helped watch over us.

'You talk like a White boy!'

When I spoke to Black high school students as a recruiter, from 1989 to 1993, they often rejected me due to my speech.

I was told many times, "You don't know what's up!" That message always presumed my experience must have been different, privileged ... simply based upon my ability to articulate well my thoughts, ideas and opinions.

Cultural Rejection of Education?

The observations I noticed during my four years recruiting for the Navy changed my life. With 25 high schools and more than 4,000 square miles of territory to cover, I was able to see what many parents, teachers and administrators could not.

I saw the students in their classrooms. I saw their grades. I saw them at lunch, after school, at home and on the basketball courts with friends. I had an overview of their lifestyle at school and at home, while teachers, parents and school administrators saw one aspect of the student.

And I saw Black boys in both wealthy schools and poor schools.

I saw their routines, their academics, scores on the ASVAB and their friends. I saw the failure rates.

I watched Black boys fail while the students sitting right next to them in the same classes achieved academic success. That trend remained consistent across the landscape of poor and wealthy high schools.

I also saw the same trends at home. Most all of the Black boys I knew left their homework and prioritized play. They prided themselves on their athleticism while academics took a back seat. The data I had access to reflected the priorities.

Academic Failure a Symptom of Cultural Problems?

That's not to say the experience I had, and the observations I made, are applicable across the board. I do not think that. But I can state unequivocally that what I observed changed the course of my life and re-directed me from the field of engineering to media. I wanted to have a voice. I wanted to make a change.

I believe we have a cultural problem in Black America that no amount of government intervention can correct.

I believe our Black children have, by and large, rejected the English language -- its proper methods, grammatical nuances and accepted pronunciations. They have done so with our tacit permission, if not daily examples. I think our children have rejected mathematical computations as irrelevant to daily life. I believe we are raising many of our Black boys without a vision of being productive and competitive in the fields of science, technology, engineering and math (STEM), which fuel the explosive growth in the Age of Innovation.

I believe our children have rejected the norms of English and math because we adults have done so, and they want to emulate us. Elevated forms of English language communication isn't prevalent in most of our communities nor most of our families. Millions of Black children are immersed within a micro society that values ideals the larger society rejects.

Stepping in it, DEEP!

I believe millions of our Black children do not understand how this society works, nor how they can create a positive impact upon it. They can't understand this society because we have confused them with our own biases, misunderstandings and misrepresentations. I believe most of our Black children do not understand the difference between entrepreneurship and training for a vocation.

And I believe we are relegating our children to the front seat of the bus: the driver's seat.

New (Tragic) Paradigm

In the Age of Innovation, in which we are witnessing a transitioning of America's economy and a loss of millions of jobs that will not return, Black boys are, by and large, unable to compete because they lack the communicative and analytical skills that are part and parcel of the English and math lessons they have eschewed. And this crisis grows worse as the Age of Innovation spawns technologies that fuel explosive growth companies, for which our children are ill-equipped to work within, much less compete against.

The time for acclimating Black boys to a new American paradigm is short, if they are to have any chance of engaging in a revolutionary productive and competitive workforce as young adults. Currently, our children, who will enter the workforce over the next decade, are ill-equipped to compete in the Age of Innovation. Thus, we are raising a generation of workers who are best-suited for menial labor. And many of those jobs are being replaced by automation, created by technological advances.

Explosive Age of Innovation

The Age of Innovation is exploding. Industries such as health care, biotech, energy, telecommunications and the Internet are experiencing rapid evolution. Internet companies, like Skype, Facebook, Youtube and Twitter are virtually ubiquitous, yet all were created within the past eight years. And there are many, many more. Most all were created by young adults (not Black).

Each year, more than $350 billion is invested into research and development in the fields of science, technology, engineering and math (STEM). Blacks are woefully under-represented in those fields. We are equally under-represented in the entrepreneurial endeavors typically fueled by those fields. And our numbers also disappear in the arena of investors who are helping to create new job opportunities through investment in high-growth innovative startups.

20th Century March in a 21st Century Race

The Age of Innovation isn't waiting for Blacks to catch up. It isn't concerned with ensuring startup companies have racially diverse decision-makers and workers. And no startup can be held responsible for actively recruiting Blacks, nor accountable for the lack thereof.

The risks endured by innovative entrepreneurs and investors create explosive growth companies that produce the vast majority of new jobs in our economy and economies around the globe. Where is the productivity of numerous Black entrepreneurs in that dynamic? Blacks are most assuredly engaged in the realm of entrepreneurship. Yet, the overwhelming amount of entrepreneurial endeavors we initiate are under-funded and lack the high-growth potential indicative of most tech-related startups.

Black representation in the fields of high tech startups and the realm of angel and venture capital investors is conspicuously low. And with Black boys failing academically in massive numbers, how does that impact Black America's productivity and global competitiveness in the next decade?

National Crisis

The crisis pointed to by the Council of Great City Schools has a reverberating impact upon the future of Black America and our ability to be productive and competitive in the Age of Innovation. And given the fast-paced evolution of this digital age, we can expect technological advances to increase exponentially while we remain flat-footed searching for a methodology upon which we can all agree.

The speed of technology will have created several new paradigms before we can convene a single meeting, which could take months. The Internet alone is changing so fast that most folks reading this article haven't yet been introduced to the concept of interactive audience participation online town halls. With such innovation, we don't need to wait until everyone can get into the same room in the same hotel. All it takes today is to set a date and time and we can all access the town hall online.

Time is Running Out

The crisis is so enormous and the time so short, that the subtle solution of appealing to the federal government to appropriate more monies toward old business models and education plans seems almost futile to me.

We are entering an era that requires drastic measures. I agree with the Council that a coalition of Black leaders across a broad spectrum must be convened. A plan of action that will also require marketing campaigns, collaborations between societal influencers and heavy investment by both public and private sources must be instituted quickly.

We must raise the alarm.

Heretofore, we have held symposiums, conferences, summits and academic conventions that have resulted in the multiple crises we face today. We cannot afford more of the same. We need something altogether different. But that requires us to come together and discuss this issue honestly. It requires that we work together. And if we cannot, we must clearly identify the divergence in thoughts, ideals and paths.

Working on a Solution

I am currently involved in discussions with individuals who seek to change the dynamic that continues to produce reports of failure and crisis. We are working upon a framework that we hope to introduce at a gathering of societal influencers. In short, we are preparing a business plan to launch an effort to propel Black America from a 20th century mindset into a 21st century innovation and competitive mindset.

There is no time to placate those who cling to false notions of a valued cultural mentality that devalues the core mental tools necessary to be competitive in America today. We must gather those who are like-minded and quickly secure the investments needed to implement a plan that will radically transform Black America into a 21st century engine of ingenuity, innovation and productivity.

Yes, we have problems. And I realize that. But none of our problems are so enormous that we must stagnate or stifle our productivity.

Communication is Key

I believe the first point of contention that must be addressed is the subject of English language communications and mathematics: the ability to effectively communicate and effectively analyze and logically deduce. I think it is past time we applied a concerted focus toward overcoming the numerous challenges our children face due to our rejection of these two basic tools: English and math.

Although the report presents dismal data on the achievement of African American males in general, it also profiles black males who are succeeding in urban public schools and are on the path to success in their chosen careers. I do not want to create the perception that positive strides aren't being made. Certainly progress is also evident. But, the stench of massive failure, which undermines the future of our children, cannot be ignored.

The Council of the Great City Schools plans to continue its research focusing on the social and educational disparities among African American males as it launches a new initiative to address the comprehensive challenges facing them.

Plan of Action

In a plan of action at the conclusion of the report, the Council called for a White House conference on the issues to help lay out a comprehensive plan of action that leaders at all levels can pursue. The organization also aims to marshal the help of school district, state, national and university leaders, as well as civic and faith-based leaders and governmental officials to address black male issues.

"We plan to convene a panel of esteemed leaders, which would provide advice and guidance to the Council on the formation of strategies for improvement," Casserly said.

I hope to receive an invitation to that meeting. I hope to bring with me concerned Black men, with whom I am involved in planning, who understand the enormity of the issue and the significant need for us to develop a framework upon which collaborative ideas and efforts can be built. The plan we're designing is for exponential impact.

There is no time, nor tolerance, for slothful politicized mechanisms that run out of money and energy quickly. After all, this is a crisis!

What are we waiting for, Christmas?

God gives nothing to those that keep their arms crossed. ~ African Proverb.
All that is not given, is lost ~ Indian Proverb
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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#1, by blackthought, 08 December 2010 05:15 AM

Because it's obvious, there's only a few that care. Like 3 - 4% of the population, maybe lower then that. This issue is old, older then 7 decades and we still have the same result. Look and watch to see what our community "Leaders" do (As in work, not talk). Watch and learn what the church does. Just watch, we are all being tested. Look at the politicians and what they will do. 

After all this time obvious, it's all the same excuses.

I've always said the laws, and rules must be equal for all or there not laws at all. Just enablers for some, and obstacles for others. And since the numbers (Statistics) are clear, it's obvious who the current "Rules/Law." enable.


Now WATCH and see this story unfold. Those of us with vision (not just sight) already see what's coming and are making ready. Another reason why we can't find the men, if you see someone getting ready to steamroll over you, wouldn't you get out the way?

This system is old, and broken.

If something is old or broken on your car what do you do? (Fix it right.) For us as human beings to advance to the next human evolutionary level there must be change, and balance. Nature teaches us this. The world cannot continue to operate in such a manner, it will be made whole or consume itself. 


The Saga continues.............................


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#2, by matrixone05, 09 December 2010 01:36 AM

Not only is there system flawed... we as parents fail our children. MOST children will aspire to attain the expectations placed before them if they are realistic and attainable.... 

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#3, by blackthought, 10 December 2010 12:09 PM

Agreed. 

Just look at he lack of interest on this topic in here.

Not condemning anyone.

But what's the percentage of ppl that have replied on this post out of the ppl on this social site.

You and I.

That's like 1% right?

Multiply that with the 200-300 mil in the country.

????

Food for thought

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#4, by asylum, 11 December 2010 06:10 AM

Agreed. 
Just look at he lack of interest on this topic in here.
Not condemning anyone.
But what's the percentage of ppl that have replied on this post out of the ppl on this social site.
You and I.
That's like 1% right?
Multiply that with the 200-300 mil in the country.
????
Food for thought
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Hmmm.

I wouldnt say a lack of comments on this board means a lack of interest. What I will say is that these articles for years and years have said the same thing. This isnt nothing new. What is there to comment on? Now real talk, when you are out here grinding trying to uplift people whether its in a community center, a church, or basketball court or a classroom, you are showing that you care. The masses have never been mistaken for revolutionaries or agents of change. One can never depend on the masses to do better. It takes the few and faithful to spark change. Freedom is a road seldom traveled by the multitude.

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#5, by anonymous116367, 11 December 2010 09:35 AM

I won't say there's a lack of interest in this topic.  If ANYONE is raising a black boy, they are interested.  I skimmed through the topic at first and in the meantime, I'm fighting my own battles with my boys.  My oldest, a bright young man who doesn't seem to have drive is just now getting a taste of how work... hard work pays off.  The unfortunate thing in this though is that he largely (like most children) wants to PLAY and is in play mode.  When I saw that he was failing, I solicited the help of school individuals.  The latest has been my meeting with a guidance counselor who has found a way to help.  I think that boys in GENERAL are being failed by the school systems and if parents are too busy working two or three jobs to keep the lights on and they are raising a boy, they have very little time to notice or pay attention to what is right underneath their nose... and let there NOT be more than 1 or 2 child in those households (which is usually the case) because the challenges increase exponentially.  THAT'S how our boys fall through the cracks because more times than not, our focus is elsewhere. 

Our family model (that of mostly SINGLE parent households) is at a disadvantage from the gate.  In the school district that my children attend, I can see HOW my being a single parent puts them at a disadvantage.  Most of the children they go to school with are children of doctors or lawyers OR the family has made a sacrifice to make sure the mother is tending the house.  Most of these women (doctor's wives or the wives of CEO's, etc) in the household can afford to stay at home and volunteer at the schools (which the black community largely frowns on... a woman at home and NOT working a full time job outside the home).  Luckily, I work ONE job which has allowed me some flexibility. 

We really need to familiarize ourselves with what DRIVES our boys so that we can use that to hook them into success.  I was speaking to a very bright young white man who was working a lucrative job at JP Morgan Chase.  I was talking to him about my son and how he was failing and he told me that instead of telling the boy that he is smart, praise him for his EFFORTS in getting school work done and in short creating a good work ethic.  One may be intelligent but it is the effort and work put into succeeding that pays off.  If one does not exert ANY effort in what they do and in succeeding... even in creating a stable family, no amount of smarts matters.  In short, I know that I need to learn HOW to turn that lightbulb on for my sons and daughter.  I had succeeded to some degree with the others but need to do so to a greater degree with my oldest son.

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Hmmm.
I wouldnt say a lack of comments on this board means a lack of interest. What I will say is that these articles for years and years have said the same thing. This isnt nothing new. What is there to comment on? Now real talk, when you are out here grinding trying to uplift people whether its in a community center, a church, or basketball court or a classroom, you are showing that you care. The masses have never been mistaken for revolutionaries or agents of change. One can never depend on the masses to do better. It takes the few and faithful to spark change. Freedom is a road seldom traveled by the multitude.

-asylum

Now THAT I can agree with. 

What I would LOVE to hear are the solutions to this thing.  Maybe I will contact some of these people who are doing these researches to see WHAT they have come up with.  It would be great if one of us in here could take an interest in following this topic and staying abreast of what solutions are being formed to address this topic by the leaders or interest groups exploring this topic.

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#7, by anonymous116367, 11 December 2010 09:58 AM

Here's a list of the organizations mentioned in the article:

Council of the Great City Schools
http://cgcs.org/
They are holding a meeting on this in DC on March 19 - 22, 2011

The 2011 Legislative Policy Conference will be held:
March 19-22, 2011
Mayflower Renaissance Hotel
Washington, DC

 

The Achievement Gap Initiative at Harvard

http://www.agi.harvard.edu/

 

Here is a link to the projects they are involved in:

http://www.agi.harvard.edu/projects/AGIProjectsFall2009.pdf

 

I found it very interesting to find that they are doing research on Harvard students on HOW they were parented and comparing that to how others who are failing were parented.  I think this will be vital information for the black community at large.  Read the list, there are a lot of interesting projects going on.

 

One thing I DO know is that THIS topic is very close to my heart.  Long after my boys are grown, I WILL be following this topic and I WILL become involved.  I've already started.  The young white teacher I was talking to has invited me to see if I can speak with some foster children in his school system.  I am trying to get a handle on my son and make sure I don't lose him before I really get involved. 

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#8, by anonymous116367, 11 December 2010 10:25 AM

I did this because MOST parents are trying to stay in the loop about their children and may not have the time to read a long article.  I hope the links will be found to be helpful and can put them in touch with groups to get involved with and information that can help make a difference in their children's lives.  We need SOLUTIONS... not CRITICISMS to be honest.  We've all be criticized ENOUGH in my book.

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#9, by pt109rickusa, 12 December 2010 05:18 AM

Let me first commend Rome and all other men who have stayed the course and been right there through it all for their children sake. I don't think many fathers realize the importance and impact they have on their sons lives. Paying child support, spending every other weekend, or whenever we feel the need to spend time with our black boys is just not enough and sets their lives at a disadvantage. Many of us don't realize the negative effects. Some may agree and some may disagree, but I did some research to find that all men we consider the very best, all had fathers in their lives. Being the first to do or achieve something does not make one the very best. I took a look at Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, Magic Johnson, Bill Russell, Kareem Abdul Jabbar, Shaq, Kobe Bryant, Jerry Rice, Emmitt Smith, Arthur Ashe, Barry Bonds, Wille Mays, Hank Aaron, Michael Jackson, Jimi Hendrix, Berry Gordy, Quincy Jones, Will Smith, Russell Simmons, Martin Luther King jr., George Washington Carver raised by German immigrants Moses and his wife Susan as their own, Charles Richard Drew, General Benjamin O. Davis commander of the Tuskegee Airman, General Daniel "Chappie" James jr., Colin Powell, all consider the very best, all memorable throughout time, all had fathers who were there in their lives. While Mohammed Ali and Floyd Mayweather may be considered the very best, they too had fathers who were there even though viewed as negative and dysfunctional. Even if we consider President Obama, while he is the first, will he be considered as JFK, FDR, or Lincoln? Consider Jesus Christ, God could have chosen a single mom, but He chose Joseph to be the earthly father. While I think we can produce some of the best in families without the father around on a consistent basis, I think they will always be second best and underachievers. That's how critical I think the fathers role is. As some of you may know, my son plays golf. A few weeks ago another young black man passed golf qualifying school by playing through 3 grueling matches and is now on the PGA tour with Tiger. It had been over 25 years since a black man had made it through Q-school. His name is Joseph Bramlett, 22 years old and a Stanford Grad. I read where he credited his father, Marlo, for all he has achieved and for being there throughout the years.

Being the best you can be takes less effort, time and sacrifice than being the very best you can be. We are all to familiar with the problems and some of us are aware of the solutions, but we'd rather take the easiest road.


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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#10, by anonymous116367, 15 December 2010 02:39 AM

Let me first commend Rome and all other men who have stayed the course and been right there through it all for their children sake. I don't think many fathers realize the importance and impact they have on their sons lives. Paying child support, spending every other weekend, or whenever we feel the need to spend time with our black boys is just not enough and sets their lives at a disadvantage. Many of us don't realize the negative effects. Some may agree and some may disagree, but I did some research to find that all men we consider the very best, all had fathers in their lives. Being the first to do or achieve something does not make one the very best. I took a look at Michael Jordan, Tiger Woods, Magic Johnson, Bill Russell, Kareem Abdul Jabbar, Shaq, Kobe Bryant, Jerry Rice, Emmitt Smith, Arthur Ashe, Barry Bonds, Wille Mays, Hank Aaron, Michael Jackson, Jimi Hendrix, Berry Gordy, Quincy Jones, Will Smith, Russell Simmons, Martin Luther King jr., George Washington Carver raised by German immigrants Moses and his wife Susan as their own, Charles Richard Drew, General Benjamin O. Davis commander of the Tuskegee Airman, General Daniel "Chappie" James jr., Colin Powell, all consider the very best, all memorable throughout time, all had fathers who were there in their lives. While Mohammed Ali and Floyd Mayweather may be considered the very best, they too had fathers who were there even though viewed as negative and dysfunctional. Even if we consider President Obama, while he is the first, will he be considered as JFK, FDR, or Lincoln? Consider Jesus Christ, God could have chosen a single mom, but He chose Joseph to be the earthly father. While I think we can produce some of the best in families without the father around on a consistent basis, I think they will always be second best and underachievers. That's how critical I think the fathers role is. As some of you may know, my son plays golf. A few weeks ago another young black man passed golf qualifying school by playing through 3 grueling matches and is now on the PGA tour with Tiger. It had been over 25 years since a black man had made it through Q-school. His name is Joseph Bramlett, 22 years old and a Stanford Grad. I read where he credited his father, Marlo, for all he has achieved and for being there throughout the years.


Being the best you can be takes less effort, time and sacrifice than being the very best you can be. We are all to familiar with the problems and some of us are aware of the solutions, but we'd rather take the easiest road.

-pt109rickusa

THANK YOU!!!!  As this is what I've been saying for YEARS!!!  Many men DO NOT UNDERSTAND the importance of their roles AT ALL.  IMO

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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#11, by istlota, 15 December 2010 04:50 PM

Not only is there system flawed... we as parents fail our children. MOST children will aspire to attain the expectations placed before them if they are realistic and attainable.... 

-matrixone05

I agree 100%. So many black kids, not just black males, "test" lower than other kids because of the low expectations placed upon them. Which, of course, places the blame where it belongs, most of it -- on the black adults who are raising these kids.

I am reluctant to focus blame solely on an absentee dad. Don't get me wrong. I get that absentee parents are the lowest form of animal life. But, having raised my now 30 year old, college graduate son on my own starting when he was 4, I know from personal experience that your kid is better off without being exposed to a sperm or egg donor who has no idea how to be a good parent anyway.

If you are a single parent, it is on _you_ to make sure your kid gets raised right. That ain't fair, that is just how it is. If your son's dad was never around, and your son grew up to be an illiterate thug, you can duck the blame if you like. But, truth is,  somewhere along the way, the most influential adult in his life --- you -- dropped the ball.

I am currently on a computer at a public library which is a few blocks from what the government terms an at risk community. Not all, but many of the young black people who come to this library are both rude and loud. They answer and talk on their cell phones in the non-designated areas even after the librarians politely ask them not to. At another library in the midst of this at risk community, I heard a black teenage girl call a librarian a b*tch for asking her to keep it down.

This is the consequence of low expectations placed upon children by the adults they grow up around. After all, as anyone who has walked through Collier City knows, the adults there [moms as well as absentee dads] behave exactly as I see their kids behave in the library.

I sometimes eat at a soup kitchen there. Invariably, while eating my lunch, I hear black adults, females as well as males, sitting near me complain about the food and expressing cruel comments about the going deaf widow who began running the place after her husband died. I have literally spent days racking my brain trying to understand what that is all about. I mean, after all, the food is free, no one is putting a gun to anyone's head to eat there, yet the same people who do the complaining continue to show up every day.

My best guess is that this comes down to an enculturated value system which maintains that it is both wise and appropriate to disrespect authority figures who are not perceived as having to power to arrest or fire you.
 
So ... the kids grow up with all these self-defeating expectations programming self-defeating behavior into their temple of 9 gates. After all, again, this is exactly how mama and daddy [when he decides to show up] speak and behave.

So, now, these kids go to school and who are the authority figures there? The teachers. So who do the kids disrespect there? The teachers.

It is unrealistic to expect more than a few exceptions among the so-called "bad" teachers to, despite the disrespect, make the extra effort to reach, teach, and inspire such Bebe's kids. Which, again, adds up to more low expectations.

This is not a black male problem. It is a black problem. Not with all blacks. But, certainly, with far too many blacks who grow up in these at risk communities.

The solution is both obvious and simple. It does not require federal funding or a March on Washington. If you  choose to raise your kid in a sewer, don't be surprised if he or she turns out like most of the other kids there.

And, drop that tired excuse about you can't afford to move. This is your kid's life we are talking about, You do whatever what you gotta do -- whatever --- to get the hell out. I know of which I speak. I have a friend, a brotha, whose son is living with him in a warehouse bay. You can sneer at how he is raising his son if you like. But, that bay is not in the ghetto and his kid is the most quiet spoken, mannerable, child I know.

All you sistas with problem sons living in the hood? Sista woman, you gotta move. Move, and hope you didn't wait too long to do so.

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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#12, by 1romierome1, 15 December 2010 10:00 PM
Ya know pt109rick I want to thank you for putting me on front street. Just bust me right out ok? Cthu
But aside from that my understanding is every man child has to learn for themself, or come to know there's no profit in being a dummy. Sad to say that was someting I had to learn. In topics like this I can't draw from others unless it broading my mind to do so. And it tool a while for me to get tothat mind frame. So now here it is I have 3 young men under my roof. The baby 2yr old thinks my bed is a trampoline. I have to calm him down with food. The second (15yr old) I put him to work, you want them jordans? Do this, this, and that, nothings for free. The oldest that 17yr old is smelling his draws and ready to pay his own bills if y'all know what I mean. Mind u none of these boys are mine. I'm just them man who's showing them how to be a man. Every once and a while I play ps2 and let them beat me in madden, but they get to hot cause I kill them I'm Mortal kombat.
There's plenty fake ppl in this world dont be one of them.
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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#13, by 1romierome1, 15 December 2010 10:19 PM
Anyway living life with them included. They're going to make there choices, I can't say for certain if there all going to be the right ones.
I seen ppl driving jags and stealing, in other words its what's in there head.
There's plenty fake ppl in this world dont be one of them.
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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#14, by blackthought, 31 December 2010 05:27 PM




Hmmm. I wouldnt say a lack of comments on this board means a lack of interest. What I will say is that these articles for years and years have said the same thing. This isnt nothing new. What is there to comment on? Now real talk, when you are out here grinding trying to uplift people whether its in a community center, a church, or basketball court or a classroom, you are showing that you care. The masses have never been mistaken for revolutionaries or agents of change. One can never depend on the masses to do better. It takes the few and faithful to spark change. Freedom is a road seldom traveled by the multitude.

-asylum

I feel you, I didn't want to come off like that, just the serious lack of focus on this subject is deliberate. And it's obvious, so I call it out. We do that with all issues in our community. I to am tired of all the talk so I push for action, something tangible, something as in action. But there seems to be to much politics even in the church, and it's disheartening. The serous lack in this area is sickening, and as I envision our kids futures I see the continued  hardships. If we want better for our children, and better lives, and relationships, it's just easy for me to see that the economics coincides with the social-political relations they will have. If were having issues with our men not performing on level, or making enough money to balance the relationships I wonder what it will be like in 10 to 20 years with this continued "Project" ;-)     

Question: Has anyone seen the movie waiting on superman?

It's always darkest just before the LIGHT!!!
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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#15, by blackthought, 31 December 2010 05:41 PM



THANK YOU!!!!  As this is what I've been saying for YEARS!!!  Many men DO NOT UNDERSTAND the importance of their roles AT ALL.  IMO

-vibewitme2



Thank you Vibe, I have to agree. I just really realized the influence, and personal power I have. The black planet thing was a learning experience. But from my experience (No excuses) we are not taught were that important.Even in the church where we preach the way, it's obvious from all these young brother asking me for help, b/c they've been in here for years but noone has even approached them. This is why I am as pro-black as I am. It's seriously one of the very few areas where I get upliftment, support, and feelings of pride. Where else would I get that?

This why I rock the locks

This is why I keep fighting

This is why I'm so frustrated when seeing the divide in my ppl.

and 

This is why I love our people so much.

In the face of overwhelming oppression, and the passive racism nowadays I still marvel at the tenacity of our ppl to live and thrive under such adversity. 

Also I'd liek to thank you for your post for the added info. I'm very busy nowadays with volunteering, physical rehab, and everything else. I miss my online fam and discussions. 

But you'd best believe I'm out here giving them hell.

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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#16, by 1romierome1, 01 January 2011 12:59 PM
Ya know what black if life for the black man was simple and easy it wouldn't be worth it.
There's plenty fake ppl in this world dont be one of them.
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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#17, by dgent, 06 April 2011 02:45 PM

When statements of this nature is put into print or words the finger pointing always start, it is the parent fault, it is the school fault, it is the church fault and then it always return to the government fault. Well I think it is time we all take a little of the blame and stop pointing fingers and let’s get to work on fixing things.

In my youth I like to think I was raised by the “village” which assisted my parents in keeping me on the straight and narrow and they worked me everywhere I went, the store, the school and even in church. I can recall being in school and if one parent was visiting the school every kid from that neighborhood would straighten up and fly right because that parent could and would wield that belt of correction. I had one of those mothers that paid surprised visits to the school and  other places we hung out and man did she keep me on my toes(love her dearly for it now).

I have spent a short part of my life in the school classrooms substituting to determine if I wanted to be a teacher and folks it was scary. I found that much of the education time was spent in the morning classes checking the roll to get that info to the office so the federal dollars would be paid and if you spend 20 minutes of a 50 min class checking roll when does teaching occur. It would take 10 minutes to calm a class down after roll call to check on assignments and make sure they had the needed equipment and then perform some other parenting duty. Teacher attempt to compensate for the short time allotted for teaching by giving homework which never make it home and may be done in another class which then cuts that class time. The teachers in our country are becoming certified baby sitters and they are burning out and leaving the education business.

Now on parenting – I do not know many families that Mom or Dad can afford to set home as it takes both parents working to make ends come close together, if the ends meet that is just fantastic. I spent many years as a single parent and I know the daily struggles that one faces to find the energy to face each day, but I did it and I am going to say to those who are doing it now…just stay strong.

Now let’s work on the problem, it is not only Black Boys but girls as well which we must not separate in our search for a solution.

1.       We must start education at home, there are tons of educational resource available for parents to use… find them and use them

2.       Support your children teachers in educating them…Check home work and if the school does not assigned any create your own and grade it

3.       Discipline your child and teach them respect for adults and authority in general, visit the schools to check your child educational and relational progress

4.       Not every child will become a sport superstar and buy mom a new house, use that energy you show at the games to support him/her in the classroom

5.       Become your child hero and allow them to see your struggle but work hard to keep them in child mode as long as possible – to many of our kids are forced to become adults at far to young a age

6.       Assigned them responsibility for something and enforce it

7.       NEVER FIGHT A TEACHER ON YOUR CHILD BEHALF, if that teacher is wrong use the legal system to address the issue

Now I am going to stop before I become preachy and I guess I need to do some work since I am in the office.
 

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Re: National Crisis: Black boys failing

#18, by matrixone05, 10 April 2011 03:38 AM

Well said.. the problem is that in the world we live in... people don't want others to correct their children.. and the children know it... a village is not respected by many any more... 

God gives nothing to those that keep their arms crossed. ~ African Proverb.
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